Being unemployed is stressful and makes you anxious that is why I am reading “Comfortable with Uncertainty” by Pema Chodron. Pema Chodron is an American Buddhist nun and one of the foremost students of the renowned Tibetan meditation master.
Each chapter is short and her words are calming to read. It makes you take a breath and be grateful for what you do have. In one chapter she writes “What keeps us unhappy and stuck in a limited view of reality is our tendency to seek pleasure and avoid pain, to seek security and avoid groundlessness, to seek comfort and to avoid discomfort.”
I realize that I have to face the uncertainty of where my next job will be. All I can do is what I am doing looking for work, networking and learning something new that will add to my skills and abilities. When I get frustrated, upset, angry, etc. all the emotions that make me lack self confidence I have to stop and breathe and read Pema Chodron and after being on the computer this morning checking emails, answering emails and watching tutorials to refresh my skills, I read one chapter and then decided to take a walk. To take a break and get outside was refreshing and to walk instead of sitting made me feel more energetic. I stopped and had lunch and watched the people. Even though I was not interacting with anyone I felt as though I had socialized just by being near them.
When I went back to my home office and sat down at the computer I was ready to work at looking for work, writing this blog and doing what I can to move forward with the discomfort of uncertainty. What makes you feel calm?