I have been single for a long time, longer than I ever thought I would be. I was married for 5 years then divorced. A few years after my divorce I met someone that I dated on and off for 10 years – we never married.
Just recently I started to feel lonely and wanting companionship. Now when I see couples walking hand in hand I feel a little pain in my heart and I wish I had someone to hold my hand, to talk to, to go places with, to share in the laughter and the tears. My parents were married for almost 60 years before they passed away and my father always said that he loved my mother just as much if not more than the day they married.
Today I read a story about a couple that had been married 70 years and held hands each morning at breakfast and never spent a night apart. They died within hours of each other. Unconditional love, dedication to each other, and living up to the vows they made to each other. That is a special kind of love that seems so rare today.
In the fast paced world we live in more people are meeting over the internet, dating sites, instead of meeting at work or through friends or family. It is not easy to start a conversation with someone these days, you do not know if they are married or not, many people do not wear rings, and so many people are on their cell phones that it is difficult to make eye contact. I’m not comfortable walking up to a complete stranger. So even if I saw someone that I might be attractive to, I would not know what to say to start a conversation.
It is not easy these days to meet a nice person that you might have something in common with. A couple of friends said that I should join some group activity that I am interested in and I could meet someone in the group. I have not done this yet….there are so many excuses not to. I do not work a regular work week, my schedule varies, I have a 19 year old son that lives with me, I have a cat, etc. Someday I’ll run out of excuses and who knows maybe I’ll meet someone that has run out of excuses too!